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While trying to get sleep, I hopped into Twitter at 2 am when I indulged in a conversation with a friend over Companionship and Relationship. I would surely paste down the conversation down but before that, I would like to know what do you think over these two terms? Do you feel they are the same? Do you feel they have a difference and if yes, what is it? What would you prefer?

I would love to see all of you commenting over it to give me more perceptions towards it. So let me start with what I believe this to be. Companionship is somewhat like a romantic-platonic-friendship model. Not necessarily involving lust, maybe having no iota of sex in it contrary to popular belief of it being nothing but Friends with Benefits. My understanding doesn’t concur to this fact. Companionship in a precise description would be a romantic friendly relationship without any commitment, full of freedom, however, beholding strong sense of trust and understanding. Full freedom wouldn’t mean you have such relationships with so many people but you having liberty to try, explore, experience anything in your life without being answerable or accountable.

Whereas relationships would include being answerable, being committed, being accountable. Relationships would give a sense of security which companionship lacks. Companionship sounds the most suitable for people who are drowned into studies, work, family commitments and barely have time to keep up with relationships. Relationships are more expected or imagined to be like fairy tales. Companionship is based on deep understanding between two individuals.

This is something that I understand it to be or I prefer it to be like and I would really like to know what do you’ll think about this concept and here I paste down my entire conversation of that night. 😀


“Victory is a thousand times sweeter when you’re the underdog.”
Jenny Han, The Summer I Turned Pretty

I am sure all of you have heard about ICC’s plan to cut down World Cup 2019 to a ten team event. The idea is to make the highest event more competitive among equal sides. As per the new qualifying rules, England, being the host of World Cup 2019 and another 7 teams among 8 top teams in ICC ODI Rankings will get to qualify for the World Cup and rest 6 teams will have to fight for remaining two spots.

Whereas such a formula would be acceptable to many but that would certainly mean that none of the associate nations would get a chance to play the World Cup. Not only it would hurt the terrific performances given by Ireland in past 3 world cups but would also bring back the slow growth for the love of this game in the world. This could prove to be one of the worse mistake ICC could take at a time when Cricket is really growing and reaching many countries in different parts of the world.

I agree on the part that except Ireland and Zimbabwe, other teams were hardly impressive in the last World Cup as far as winning matches is concerned but that’s how you create opportunities and give chances for them to excel. It was this chance that made Sri Lanka what it is now or rather Bangladesh from what they were before. In fact the minnow of 1980s Sri Lanka even won a World Cup whereas the highly revered English team has not won a single on in any format of the Game. Even if the entire arrangement is to take top 8 teams, then strike that and make it top 5 or top 6 teams to qualify. That would give more positions to qualify and higher chances too. As far as Associate nations are considered, I feel they are fighting a wrong battle. Lambasting ICC for diminishing their opportunities by not allowing them to play World Cup is totally a wrong direction. What they should rather be doing is fighting for more international matches. There must mandatorily be minimum 2 matches with every test playing nation every year. If that is not possible at least with the A sides of those countries. More cricket on International front would surely give them more exposure to excel and also create attention from among countries thereby keeping intact the rising popularity rate of this game.

If such delicate arrangements are not handled by ICC, I am sure it will create a dent in the bright future of the Game and also leave a scar in budding stars of tomorrow. Especially the teams like Afghanistan or other African teams who have fought all odds and reached this level. There is much thinking to do before just running behind revenue expansion plans. World over, people still rejoice when Associate Nations put up a good show and that joy is as much as a great performance put by own team. These so-called minnows have given us really good performances since the inception of World Cups, we sure don’t want to cut down on them.

Also, I’d like you to read this post too which I found really nice on the same subject by Hindustan Times.

Source: edition.cnn.com

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I live my life in widening circles that reach out across the world

— Rainer Marya Rilke

It rains the hardest on people who deserve the Sun. I had really been disturbed few days back seeing many people around me sacrificing their only love, their only likening, probably the best talent that they have at the stake of securing the future. Well, securing future isn’t wrong but why kill the insides of you for gaining something whose fruits aren’t as sweet as you deserve?

I was touched when I saw this movie, Patiala House, where Akshay Kumar played the role of Pargat Singh Kahlon. In that movie, he quits his dream of becoming an English Cricketer because his father threatens him to end his own life if he plays for Whites. For the love of parents, like all of us do, he quits playing Cricket and doesn’t go further with his selection in England National Cricket Team. He starts handling a shop given to him by his father and leads a sad, lifeless life for 17 years. What he doesn’t leave is practicing Cricket. Although he doesn’t play, he does go and practices at night. It was 17 years after, when he turns 34, life takes turn and he finally gets to play for England National Team and his dream gets fulfilled.

How different are we from Pargat Singh Kahlon? We select Medical, Chartered Accountancy, Engineering and all those high profile professional courses on the insistence of our parents who are sure, just like everyone is, that we will find a midas touch if we do this and be nothing but a pauper or struggler if we chose the field of art or sports. Their fear isn’t wrong, your obedience is not wrong at all; However, where people falter is when they suppress their inner love, their passion, their reason for inner happiness by discontinuing or disregarding or self doubting their abilities, the importance of what they are excelling in and the heights they can reach or the happiness they can always have if they stick to it. It is not possible in this world with so many macro and micro problems leading from poverty to competition to politics to hundreds and thousands of other obstacles to always get deserving reward for what you are best at, to get an opportunity for that, to win a fortune at that but then there isn’t any wisdom in leaving it too. You may never know, tables may just turn and you get an opportunity too just like how Pargat Singh Kahlon did. Okay Okay, now you will tell me that it was just a film but tell me one thing; Aren’t films inspired from real lives?  (Except many South Indian and latest Salman, Akshay, Ajay Devgn movies :\ )*

I just want to tell you, “HOLD ON !!” Don’t let situations take over you, don’t make hasty decisions and don’t ever let go off your love. Stick to it, if life throws you in a different jungle to fend, practice your skills when free just to keep them alive or improve and excel on it on a personal level. If life really had plans for you, sometime – somewhere, you may get an opportunity to live it and if life never had plans for you, you shall just be happy for not letting go off a gift which was given to you by God.  You may not even know if during turbulent times, it is this art which will fetch you food and shelter. Doing what your parents want you to do religiously or doing what comes out as a safest option will do no harm to anybody and keep people around happy too; I am sure, post that obedience you can always justify your devotion of time for things that are close to you. Heard of Michael Jordan saying, “I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.”  

So my dear CA colleague, my Dentist neighbour, my Software Engineer friend, my Law pursuing cousin and so many of you around, I’d really love to open a newspaper one day, get shocked seeing you’ll achieving feats or you holding exhibitions or you holding a concert or you putting an ad for a cooking class or you being another person climbing himalayas or you winning “So you think you can Dance”. This life is a tree full of fruits and these fruits are either to encash and make people happy or spread smiles and make people happy but most important, finding and holding your inner happiness. And lastly – ALWAYS REMEMBER – “It’s only those who do nothing that make no mistakes”.

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And I asked myself about the present: how wide it was, how deep it was, how much was mine to keep.

                                                                                   —   Kurt Vonnegut

21 .. What an age for a boy ! All of a sudden, he will turn into a Man, responsibilities and expectations will increase, presentation of self will get utmost importance and first step of achieving dreams will touch the feet or be as near to be able to see with naked eye. But don’t you think there is more to this age?

It’s a time when all that you planned for your future gets a reality check. You realize nothing is butter and honey and there is perseverance and hard work required in all. Where you don’t know with whom you are competing and all those lessons of school to study your opponent goes waste because you never come to know who is going to battle you in the race of life. Where you realize that popularity and influence of your fathers, forefathers, uncles and friends of all the three will get you anywhere as easily  as making Maggi. Where you understand being nice and pleasing to everyone is so important and where it is difficult to judge who is talking shit behind your back. All those friends with whom you dreamt of ruling or at least being a celebrity in this world have disappeared soon after your farewell and graduation and inspirational and encouraging stories that you were always exposed to changes to stories of failure.

It’s a time when you realize that what will fetch you the goose that lays golden eggs was nothing but a facade created by people who themselves lie in order to safeguard their image and hide their self-defeating feeling. It’s a time when you realize that you have to sweat as much as your friend who celebrated all 5 years of college life unlike the sincerity that you kept. It’s that time when you realize that your job is not as expected by you and you won’t change your path for betterment for starting from scratch will scare your balls. It’s the time when you scroll through social networking websites, not to socialize but to check how much fun your friends are having. It’s that time when you will constantly compare yourself with your friends or your life with the life of your parents when they were young.

It’s that time when your heart gets broken and you wonder how can someone, whom you love so much do this to you.  It’s a time when you love one girl and then you fall in love with another girl. You feel sick because you are a good guy and you need to be serious on one. It’s a time when you would talk to yourself that you will have a better girl besides you in couple of years than the girl your friend has now and pacify yourself. Then again, you will feel sick of considering girl as a trophy and kicking love to backseat. Then you will get serious on love and go close to someone only to find that the lovee has already got someone in her life and you will fail as a lover once again. It’s that time when you will start looking at relationships in a different manner. One night stands or short hook ups and flings will make you feel tacky and you would seek long term or serious relationships. It’s that time when you will question if the person you have been with for such a long time is really worth it or it’s the time when you wonder if its too late to make a decision of getting done with.  It’s a time when suddenly you will see your age female friends declaring engagements or marriage and wonder how old you have become. It’s that time when you would halt for a second and look at a second year degree student and wonder how different you’ll look and then again sulk on how old you have become because they look as same as you.

It’s a time when your music taste will change. It’s a time when you will get frustrated of your own habit of procrastinating health and wellness of body, actually shape of physique. It’s that time when you will still lose on your promises to study as same as how you used to lose when you were a kid. It’s that time when all the lessons you learnt as a kid will be challenged and every day outside will make you feel that the world is going to dogs. It’s that time when you realize the world is selfish and all those friends you called best friends aren’t really that good and many of them that came and left your life were really good. You realize that someone you thought of it as a bitch is not really a bitch but then no one will do anything because everyone would be stuck in same doldrums as you.

It’s that time when you will laugh and cry in extremes. You will get scared or feel helpless or totally lonely. It’s that time when you will feel like running out of your house and hug that one person which matters most to you but then sleep with wet eyes that the person who is important to you, doesn’t feel the same for you. You question yourself if what you are doing is really worth it. You get more of such questions and have the same conversations with every friend time and again because you are in search of a conclusion which you won’t get because unknowingly everyone is suffering through the same phase.

You worry about the King Size Life, you always dreamt of. You start understanding the value for money and start wondering how would you build the foundation of coming phases of life. It’s that time when change is needed and when a change approaches, it scares you inside out and makes you cling to the past which has already flown away. It’s that time when you keep pondering over and try to clear this mess in your head. It’s the age where you have sudden intense fear of failure. It’s the age where everyday you will leave the house with basket full of expectations only to return home with all expectations unfulfilled followed by your lecture to yourself on ceasing to expect. It’s the age of 21 and somehow, somewhere, everyone of us is going through same emotions at some point or the other.

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Source: Google Images