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Sayonara …

Posted: July 16, 2014 in Free Hugs :')
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“I guess that’s what saying good-bye is always like–like jumping off an edge. The worst part is making the choice to do it. Once you’re in the air, there’s nothing you can do but let go.”
― Lauren Oliver, Before I Fall

Just yesterday I broke the ice after a 7 month vacation from Blogging .. To be honest, If I look back at life past one year, It was practically nothing. I returning from Chennai, long hours of work, being alone on assignments, new to a lot of exposures, prolonged sickness that kept going undetected followed by hospitalization, bed rest and 5 months of study schedule coupled with new found deep interest in Indian Polity.

12 months .. fresh from a long gap of vaccum, just when I recovered with everything slowly falling into place, I am going to get another vaccum. Someone who has been one of the closest friend who also shared my professional space is going to leave. Situations like these are tough to deal, both feeling happy as well as sad would get you a huge guilt. I am happy that he is attaining freedom, getting into what he would love to do, stepping to a better life but sad too, not just because he won’t be there now but most of my past is clouded with people too close to me going as much far after a shift from the phase.

Well, anyways, this is life as they say, people come and go. All I trust is, some people would stay, no matter what and I am sure he would too. But even if he wouldn’t, it is better I remember him and smile otherwise it would be better to forget than to remember and feel bad. There isn’t much purpose to why I am writing this, may be I wanted to just speak out. Probably he is on his way to become a Journalist, let’s hope you and I get to see him feature in Corporate Dossiers or CNBCs in a year or two.

Sayonara brother .. Have a great new life from tomorrow .. “SHAM” will never break apart and we 3 will join you soon in conquest of eternal bliss, Amen. 🙂

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2013

Posted: December 6, 2013 in Reality Check
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Me: “Why? Why had this got to happen to only me? Hadn’t I taken enough care every time?”

She: “My sister went with everyone for bicycle trekking and even she took a lot of care, however, only she fell and hit the rock and fell into coma.”

———– This is what someone close to me replied when I fussed over a sudden severe  stomach infection, I developed after October that ruined 2 months of my life – physically, academically, professionally, financially and mentally.

      Destiny !! Isn’t it something which some people believe with whole heart, some with doubts and rest do not believe it at all. I am someone who believes in it and have heard much since birth that what is meant to happen, shall happen ultimately.

2013 has been a tough year. My new year started with cops busting the new year party (We got conned by the organizers, okay?) within first half hour of 2013 and it never continued to be good till date. Alright, I had my share of lessons, my share of wins and appreciations, my share of personal victory, my share of growth and my share of discovery this year but it was always challenged and somewhere, I failed to achieve what I expected from 2013.

The year commenced itself with a challenge on personal front whose climax fell during my final year board exams. If not only that, my college life came to an end in the first quarter of this year itself. As Aamir Khan rightly said it in his movie Rang De Basanti, “College de gate di ik taraf hum life ko nachate hai aur duji taraf life humko.”
College ended and voila ! 75 to 80% of the friends you made in college have moved away or have gone busy in their lives. You realize the fact that someone whom you need the most is the one you are best without. Some people mysteriously leave and some go abroad or get entangled in further studies. You happen to accidentally speak to someone whom you never spoke in college life, but that is if luck favors you. The hollowness of you being grown up – the 21 age crises sets in (I spoke about it at length in this post – 21-something-crises). By April, I shifted to a lackluster routine of Sleep-Eat-Go Office-Eat-Sleep with occasional hang outs and frequent overtimes at office. And when this routine had a calm ongoing with me having social life mostly through social networking mediums, life threw melons at me and I developed a severe stomach infection followed by hospitalization and bed rest which I am undergoing right now.

There are few things that I learnt this year – some of them are:

  • Exercise or do Yoga. Don’t let the evils of a sedentary lifestyle take over you. Keep healthy diet and drink lots of water. Some things, how much ever tasty or addictive – Avoid or limit the use. Health may get screwed anytime and trust me, Hospitalization – be it in lavish ones like Kokilaben Ambani or Seven Hills – isn’t a nice experience.
  • Rise over individualistic view and adopt the idea of ISR just like companies have to do CSR after Companies Act, 2013. Oh btw, ISR is Individual Social Responsibility. Spread love and spread smiles. I know how it is to make someone happy, it sure gives more happiness than shopping from Forever 21 or having a fridge full of exotic beers, wines, age old scotch or whiskeys. Don’t be a menace to society.
  • Concentrate on what you are doing with your life. Even if no one tells you, there are strings attached to many people. Take care of your parents, they love you and worry for you. The only reason why you face differences is mainly because of generation gap. There was a funny message that I received in the morning – “With each wrong answer that you write in your paper, your honeymoon tends to shift from Mauritius to Matheran”. 😀
  • Don’t get bogged down if a lot of wrong things happen at the same time. May be its a testing period. Someone great had told me this year, “Your life starts only after you plan your entire life up there, select all your difficulties and tests that you want to undergo on earth to rise spiritually. It is only after you submit this to God and confirm the acceptance of challenge, that your life starts on earth. If you fail in the tests, it gets repeated just like how it happens in school. Don’t ever feel your problems won’t ever end because these problems are selected by you and are very much under your capacity and competency. Just keep faith in God, Introspect and bounce back. Once you pass the spiritual test, trust me, such a similar situation will never repeat itself.”
  • Do those things that incline you toward the big questions, and avoid the things that would reduce you and make you trivial.

There is much more actually, I can keep on speaking about it at any hour of the day, I could write a lot on it too but sometimes I need readers and I am told to learn skills of precis writing 😦 . But now comes 2014 in about 24 days. This year is too important in many aspects and I look forward to being a qualified professional after May Exams, probably earn a few more accolades too. Time permitting, back pack and go on for exploring new places – this year my friends and I could only google and plan but never happened to go. Read more books, especially complete Harry Potter, Dan Brown series and Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand. Blog more frequently and possibly join a diploma in creative writing. Think and work over screwed up love life and meet more interesting people, end up at more crazy parties and do some real dhasu stuffs (However, this does not involve gate crashing at weddings Abhas and Harsh 😛 ).

“Hope
Smiles from the threshold of the year to come,
Whispering ‘it will be happier’…”
― Alfred Tennyson

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And I asked myself about the present: how wide it was, how deep it was, how much was mine to keep.

                                                                                   —   Kurt Vonnegut

21 .. What an age for a boy ! All of a sudden, he will turn into a Man, responsibilities and expectations will increase, presentation of self will get utmost importance and first step of achieving dreams will touch the feet or be as near to be able to see with naked eye. But don’t you think there is more to this age?

It’s a time when all that you planned for your future gets a reality check. You realize nothing is butter and honey and there is perseverance and hard work required in all. Where you don’t know with whom you are competing and all those lessons of school to study your opponent goes waste because you never come to know who is going to battle you in the race of life. Where you realize that popularity and influence of your fathers, forefathers, uncles and friends of all the three will get you anywhere as easily  as making Maggi. Where you understand being nice and pleasing to everyone is so important and where it is difficult to judge who is talking shit behind your back. All those friends with whom you dreamt of ruling or at least being a celebrity in this world have disappeared soon after your farewell and graduation and inspirational and encouraging stories that you were always exposed to changes to stories of failure.

It’s a time when you realize that what will fetch you the goose that lays golden eggs was nothing but a facade created by people who themselves lie in order to safeguard their image and hide their self-defeating feeling. It’s a time when you realize that you have to sweat as much as your friend who celebrated all 5 years of college life unlike the sincerity that you kept. It’s that time when you realize that your job is not as expected by you and you won’t change your path for betterment for starting from scratch will scare your balls. It’s the time when you scroll through social networking websites, not to socialize but to check how much fun your friends are having. It’s that time when you will constantly compare yourself with your friends or your life with the life of your parents when they were young.

It’s that time when your heart gets broken and you wonder how can someone, whom you love so much do this to you.  It’s a time when you love one girl and then you fall in love with another girl. You feel sick because you are a good guy and you need to be serious on one. It’s a time when you would talk to yourself that you will have a better girl besides you in couple of years than the girl your friend has now and pacify yourself. Then again, you will feel sick of considering girl as a trophy and kicking love to backseat. Then you will get serious on love and go close to someone only to find that the lovee has already got someone in her life and you will fail as a lover once again. It’s that time when you will start looking at relationships in a different manner. One night stands or short hook ups and flings will make you feel tacky and you would seek long term or serious relationships. It’s that time when you will question if the person you have been with for such a long time is really worth it or it’s the time when you wonder if its too late to make a decision of getting done with.  It’s a time when suddenly you will see your age female friends declaring engagements or marriage and wonder how old you have become. It’s that time when you would halt for a second and look at a second year degree student and wonder how different you’ll look and then again sulk on how old you have become because they look as same as you.

It’s a time when your music taste will change. It’s a time when you will get frustrated of your own habit of procrastinating health and wellness of body, actually shape of physique. It’s that time when you will still lose on your promises to study as same as how you used to lose when you were a kid. It’s that time when all the lessons you learnt as a kid will be challenged and every day outside will make you feel that the world is going to dogs. It’s that time when you realize the world is selfish and all those friends you called best friends aren’t really that good and many of them that came and left your life were really good. You realize that someone you thought of it as a bitch is not really a bitch but then no one will do anything because everyone would be stuck in same doldrums as you.

It’s that time when you will laugh and cry in extremes. You will get scared or feel helpless or totally lonely. It’s that time when you will feel like running out of your house and hug that one person which matters most to you but then sleep with wet eyes that the person who is important to you, doesn’t feel the same for you. You question yourself if what you are doing is really worth it. You get more of such questions and have the same conversations with every friend time and again because you are in search of a conclusion which you won’t get because unknowingly everyone is suffering through the same phase.

You worry about the King Size Life, you always dreamt of. You start understanding the value for money and start wondering how would you build the foundation of coming phases of life. It’s that time when change is needed and when a change approaches, it scares you inside out and makes you cling to the past which has already flown away. It’s that time when you keep pondering over and try to clear this mess in your head. It’s the age where you have sudden intense fear of failure. It’s the age where everyday you will leave the house with basket full of expectations only to return home with all expectations unfulfilled followed by your lecture to yourself on ceasing to expect. It’s the age of 21 and somehow, somewhere, everyone of us is going through same emotions at some point or the other.

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In a tale of her own life, Gauri Jayaram will make you smile, feel loved, want to travel, laugh, feel sad and sometimes angry. A book that would be less of reading but being around the author”

Wise enough to be foolish – is a true story of Gauri Jayaram which is, although published in print, that needs to be read but at no point of time you will feel like you are reading it for the book is written in such a way as if she herself is narrating it in front of us. Starting from the Cover. which has a half portrait of a girl holding a worn out suitcase with title written in beautiful font making it so attractive that you would want to try it out and know this girl’s story. Title is well considered; keeping in mind that previous prospective title of the book was “Finding Love”; however, I feel the current title is way better than the previous one.

Coming to the plot of the book; Gauri makes sure that you get each and every detail of her life starting from her birth as a Fauji Kid to have been grown up as a mid-sibling and corresponding rivalry. How she grows up in school, meeting different types of people and having a story with them. Even though the book is set in yesteryears of 1980s and 1990s, it makes you come across taboo issues like losing virginity, preference of son over daughter, live-in relationships etcetera. It further takes you to how her life takes turns when she becomes one of the toppers in not only academics but also in sports; making her parents proud and travelling to Bombay for her graduation. Although plot shifts itself to Bombay, it keeps coming back and forth and also makes you swim across her tale in Bombay where she meets amazing people, falls in love, almost gets engaged, drifts apart and falls in love again after ending up in a secret marriage that lasts with a heartbreak and again finding love for a happy ending. And when you go through every phase of her life; she will make you smile, feel good, think about and go through every emotion in a way as if it is happening to you.

A tale of an independent woman who makes her life worthwhile and makes you learn many things such as to follow your dreams, do what you want to do and not follow what others want you to; even if those “others” are your parents, persevere and never get bogged down by life’s ups and downs.

Personal Recommendation:- I would love if each and everyone reading this review goes and grabs their copy for this book is amazing beyond praises. A light read, seamless story which can be finished at one go and which would have a “feel superb” effect on you for days. Funny and witty, charming and beautiful, thrilling and unpredictable – that’s how one can describe it one shot. Every character in her story is described in such a sharp way that you can actually create mental image of everyone. One thing I bet is, you won’t get spared in falling in love with Gauri after reading this book.

Meanwhile have a look at this – 

Ratings: 5/5 — Loved every bit of it.

More details:-

Publisher: Jaico Books

Price: Rs. 225/-

ISBN-13: 978-81-8495-456-2

Some of the beautiful things about the book said in public:- 

“A charming, unputdownable read of an empowered Indian Woman – one that both men and women should read” – Milind Soman, model and actor.

“The mind of any girl is an unsolvable mystery. Gauri lets men into that maze” – Omar Qureshi – author and editor in chief, Zoom TV

“Like watching a movie….incredibly ballsy.. scarily honest”. – Abhinay Deo, film director, Delhi Belly.

About the book (at the back of the cover):-

Wise Enough to Be Foolish is a fictionalized memoir that traces the journey of an Indian girl’s life, with all its challenges and delightful surprises, as she blossoms from an insecure child into a confident young woman. This roller-coaster ride of adventure, laughter and heartache, as she balances her love life with her struggle for independence, will keep you guessing – What rules will she break next? How far will she go to find herself?

About the Author:-

Gauri Jayaram

Mother of two girls, ameteur athlete, part time writer, management school drop out, traveler, entrepreneur, in  full time employment with the world’s largest escorted touring company and woman behind The Active Holiday  Company, Gauri Jayaram is a little bit of many things and still not satisfied! she frequently combines her love  for long distance running with rock music.

For more about the book, visit http://wiseenoughtobefoolish.com

Also, part of Sales proceeds from the price of this book support Pinkathon’s Chairy – Women’s Cancer      Initiative. To Learn more about Pinkathon please visit http://pinkathon.in

 

 

This book review is a part of Book Review Programme by Jaico Books