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And I asked myself about the present: how wide it was, how deep it was, how much was mine to keep.

                                                                                   —   Kurt Vonnegut

21 .. What an age for a boy ! All of a sudden, he will turn into a Man, responsibilities and expectations will increase, presentation of self will get utmost importance and first step of achieving dreams will touch the feet or be as near to be able to see with naked eye. But don’t you think there is more to this age?

It’s a time when all that you planned for your future gets a reality check. You realize nothing is butter and honey and there is perseverance and hard work required in all. Where you don’t know with whom you are competing and all those lessons of school to study your opponent goes waste because you never come to know who is going to battle you in the race of life. Where you realize that popularity and influence of your fathers, forefathers, uncles and friends of all the three will get you anywhere as easily  as making Maggi. Where you understand being nice and pleasing to everyone is so important and where it is difficult to judge who is talking shit behind your back. All those friends with whom you dreamt of ruling or at least being a celebrity in this world have disappeared soon after your farewell and graduation and inspirational and encouraging stories that you were always exposed to changes to stories of failure.

It’s a time when you realize that what will fetch you the goose that lays golden eggs was nothing but a facade created by people who themselves lie in order to safeguard their image and hide their self-defeating feeling. It’s a time when you realize that you have to sweat as much as your friend who celebrated all 5 years of college life unlike the sincerity that you kept. It’s that time when you realize that your job is not as expected by you and you won’t change your path for betterment for starting from scratch will scare your balls. It’s the time when you scroll through social networking websites, not to socialize but to check how much fun your friends are having. It’s that time when you will constantly compare yourself with your friends or your life with the life of your parents when they were young.

It’s that time when your heart gets broken and you wonder how can someone, whom you love so much do this to you.  It’s a time when you love one girl and then you fall in love with another girl. You feel sick because you are a good guy and you need to be serious on one. It’s a time when you would talk to yourself that you will have a better girl besides you in couple of years than the girl your friend has now and pacify yourself. Then again, you will feel sick of considering girl as a trophy and kicking love to backseat. Then you will get serious on love and go close to someone only to find that the lovee has already got someone in her life and you will fail as a lover once again. It’s that time when you will start looking at relationships in a different manner. One night stands or short hook ups and flings will make you feel tacky and you would seek long term or serious relationships. It’s that time when you will question if the person you have been with for such a long time is really worth it or it’s the time when you wonder if its too late to make a decision of getting done with.  It’s a time when suddenly you will see your age female friends declaring engagements or marriage and wonder how old you have become. It’s that time when you would halt for a second and look at a second year degree student and wonder how different you’ll look and then again sulk on how old you have become because they look as same as you.

It’s a time when your music taste will change. It’s a time when you will get frustrated of your own habit of procrastinating health and wellness of body, actually shape of physique. It’s that time when you will still lose on your promises to study as same as how you used to lose when you were a kid. It’s that time when all the lessons you learnt as a kid will be challenged and every day outside will make you feel that the world is going to dogs. It’s that time when you realize the world is selfish and all those friends you called best friends aren’t really that good and many of them that came and left your life were really good. You realize that someone you thought of it as a bitch is not really a bitch but then no one will do anything because everyone would be stuck in same doldrums as you.

It’s that time when you will laugh and cry in extremes. You will get scared or feel helpless or totally lonely. It’s that time when you will feel like running out of your house and hug that one person which matters most to you but then sleep with wet eyes that the person who is important to you, doesn’t feel the same for you. You question yourself if what you are doing is really worth it. You get more of such questions and have the same conversations with every friend time and again because you are in search of a conclusion which you won’t get because unknowingly everyone is suffering through the same phase.

You worry about the King Size Life, you always dreamt of. You start understanding the value for money and start wondering how would you build the foundation of coming phases of life. It’s that time when change is needed and when a change approaches, it scares you inside out and makes you cling to the past which has already flown away. It’s that time when you keep pondering over and try to clear this mess in your head. It’s the age where you have sudden intense fear of failure. It’s the age where everyday you will leave the house with basket full of expectations only to return home with all expectations unfulfilled followed by your lecture to yourself on ceasing to expect. It’s the age of 21 and somehow, somewhere, everyone of us is going through same emotions at some point or the other.

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Manish Gupta will plant a deeper love in your heart for the English Language by bringing to you hundreds of new words making your vocabulary mesmerizing coupled with etymologies and interesting stories behind such many words through his book English Bites ! – The Fun Way To Improve Your English !

It took me about 40 days to finish this book of 334 pages. Honestly, the start is itself like this. For the first few pages, I went so slow at a rate of about 2 pages an hour. This was because, I used to halt to read the meaning of words written at the footnote out of curiosity; even the words I knew, I read out of the same feeling and eventually lost the track, got bored and shut the book. However, as soon as I progressed, I started getting the hang of his writing style and the book became more and more interesting. Such that, when it came to an end, I felt bad for I wanted more of it.

So, Manish Gupta takes about 20 years to write this book and at no point of the book, will you feel that hard work was not invested. He has gone about writing a story using many words which will be new to your vocabulary. He has given meanings of all those words as footnote so you won’t need to toggle dictionary while reading the book. He has listed down many anecdotes, mnemonics and examples for you to remember those words and feel the idiosyncrasies of this language. He has also elaborated on etymologies of so many words with illustrations and expansion that will make you wonder and re read and feel like calling someone and discussing it.

The plot of the story is how the protagonist, Mr. Manish Gupta, who was not so fluent with this language goes about learning and excelling the language. While learning the language, he develops a hobby of dwelling into the vagaries and idiosyncrasies of English Language. He starts of a story with his school days and quickly shifts to college days. From College Graduation to MBA and finally getting into a Banker’s Job and getting a residence at the posh locality of Mumbai – Bandra. My favorite part was when he gets into the etymology  of Coffee, Food and Medical Terms.

Coming to Cover Page – In my opinion, I did not like it at all. If I would have not received this book from the Author directly, I would have never picked it up from a Book Store. About the readability, fonts are of proper size and flow of the story is very nicely set up. The book that initially bores you to death will only stick to your mind from midway only to leave you wanting more when it ends.

I would surely recommend each one of you reading the review to read this book. It is a different genre, true – but will not disappoint you on content levels. Thank you Mr. Manish Gupta for sending me this book and giving me a chance to read such a beautiful book. This book is surely going to rest in my “Most Favorite Read” Shelf.

Maulik Doshi

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SUMMARY

Name of the Book: English Bites ! My Fullproof English Learning Formula.

Author: Manish Gupta

Publishers: Penguin Books India (www.penguinbooksindia.com)

ISBN: 978-0-143-41900-6

Genre: Non Fiction

Ratings: 4.5/5 😀

About the Book

The Fun Way To Improve Your English .. Is the English language your biggest nightmare? It was Manish Gupta’s until he decided to cheat and beat the system. Today he is a smooth – talking banker and has written a unique English Learning Guide that is easy to read, super effective and hilarious. So, whether you’re a vernacular speaker, a GRE/GMAT/CAT/XAT/ aspirant or just a language nut, English Bites ! will expand your vocabulary and improve your verbal ability. It may even help you love the English Language a  little more.

About the Author

Manish Gupta is a banking professional. When not crunching numbers, he examines the vagaries and idiosyncrasies of the English language. He also likes trivia, traveling, adventure sports, delving into human psychology and giving professional discourses to colleagues, family and friends – practically anyone who can give him a patient hearing. An engineering graduate from Punjab Engineering College, Chandigarh and an MBA from XLRI School of Business and Human Resources, Jamshedpur, he lives in Mumbai with his wife Deepali, a medical professional and their daughters Tamanna and Prakriti.

You can reach Manish Gupta at mystruggleswithenglish@gmail.com.


“How do you measure your life? By the time you spent or moments you lived?”

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It was the third time that we met and it started raining. The entire admiral did not halt at our unintentional ability to ignite rains but at our luck of coming across travelling rains. Just like previous two encounters, even this time, it rained towards our side but not on us. It poured around us but not on us and it continued for minutes till we thought of going towards the roof and standing in a make-shift shelter that it started pouring over the side we stood. I don’t know why it happens to us, but I am sure, some friendships are magical.

I am two days late in wishing you all, so first thing that I shall do is — WISH YOU’LL A HAPPY FRIENDSHIPS’ DAY !! I am sure everyone celebrated in some or the other way. I met my friend and went for a walk, scheduled to meet people and really not letting those promises go in vain, personalized text message to everyone; wishing and thanking them for their presence in my life and treating each other in office by ordering chilly cheese sandwiches and paneer pizzas from Gowalia Tank Dairy Farm. Also, I would love to know what all you people did and how did you’ll celebrate it.

The title of my blog, “One Life, Million Stories” had portion of justice this year since it was the year of transition. I finished my graduation and came more closer to the exam whose result has many hopes of dear ones, personal ambitions and overall satisfaction of everyone and myself attached to it. This friendship-ical year which started from the Monday right after the first Sunday of August, 2012 till first Saturday of August, 2013 showed a great deal of ups and downs. I have had months of anti-social behaviour, I had days of going away from messengers and social networking websites, I have a new blog now; since then many better net connections as well, I lost a closest friend due to a fight and even though we reconciled, we never stepped back to the relation we used to be in, overall some remained and many vanished and many disappeared in the doldrums of career and academics. This entire year, many stories of this one life came to an end or a halt; many pages torn and many crumpled; the book called life had a difficult year.

However, things have been decent throughout. My personal growth has been gratifying. Let’s hope and expect a beautiful year and me not really writing a post about the weird-ness of the year but happiness of the time. So again, I wish everyone a very Happy Friendships’ Day, make more friends and live more memories, enjoy life and adhere to your responsibilities. Take care. 🙂

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Meanwhile, since 3 days, this song has stuck to my head:- (I am sure, if this song will connect you; you would definitely feel like dancing every time you listen to this track)
 
 
Thank you Bappi-Da !!

Quotation, n: The act of repeating erroneously the words of another

— Ambrose Bierce

That day when I went to college after months to collect my marksheet, I met an old friend of mine with whom I have spent maximum hours on phone in junior college. She is one of the most creative person I have met and has bagged national accolades. When I asked her about what is she doing lately, she told me about the professional course she is pursuing and is kind of stuck in it giving re-attempts.

I remember in my junior college days, how people imagined her as someone who would ace in arts and today after years, I see her stuck out here. It wasn’t a new thing for her to hear when I asked her, “Why on earth are you wasting your years running behind things you haven’t taken birth for?” to which she replied her parents want her to and that if this time she won’t make it, she would pursue L.L.B.

I recollected my friend, Abhay Maheshwari’s frustrated move when he raises his hands and bangs on his forehead shouting, “What a disaster !” and chuckled. Why does it happen that people fail to recognize what is there in themselves what others find easy to make out. Although she knows that she aces in arts but then why would parents ignore the fact that she is better in it, actually much better than the ones who are famous already. Now when I see her or talk to her, I feel bad for her and I feel all the more to show how disturbed I feel to look at her doing things so opposite to what she should do, to where she excels.

But then obviously, as we all know, how easy it is for us to give advice to others from outside and we only know how difficult it is to deal when the situation is facing us. I remember myself also giving up my engineering dreams and pursued commerce when I never imagined myself in a role of consultant or service provider in future and had always thought of myself as a creator, as an inventor or repairer or builder. I remember how it was to give up dreams but I always reminded myself that life has turns and sometimes the decisions which you think are wrong, are in fact the best decisions for you. I started taking interest in commerce soon and have reached at the verge of final CA, all exams in the interim cleared at first go.

There are only two ways when you are stopped by with decisions. Either to follow what your heart says and abide by it and enjoy or do what your obligation or responsibilities ask you to, develop interest and/or move forward to get a hand of it. There are no extra chances in life or abundance opportunities. This life is a gift and one may never know what other day will bring in for you and hence it is really necessary to buck up and take charge of lives. We have to make most of our lives, to make proper utilization of the gift we got and to never feel regret for the regret is the most horrifying thing in this world. As the tagline of Research in Motion – Blackberry goes, “Do what you love, Love what you do” — Our approach should be in the same way.

If there comes a time when you know that what you are meant to do surpasses what you ought to do, tackle the dilemma either by balancing, deferring or doing what you are meant to do for that would be done with the best quality and perfection. Our aim in life is to reach a point where when you lie down on your bed, each night should be such that you sleep with full contentment and satisfaction.

If you are reading this and felt that you have lost the time then forget that feeling and start afresh RIGHT NOW. Take charge of your life, make a bucket list, call a friend, go out, join a club, become a member of art societies, get a book, book a ticket for holidays or  do anything that you always wanted to. Move beyond the phase where regrets rest to a phase where joy overflows. Live your life, Live your gift and if you ever fail, get up again and start afresh just like how a spider would start combing its web again if it breaks without feeling disappointed or upset or without giving up.

Do it now and see your self thanking you for it.

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